My girlfriend and I have been dating four months and get along very well. You could say we are in love. Several things occurred over the past few weeks that made me rethink the relationship and where it is heading. Here are a few facts.

She continually communicates with five past lovers. She claims without any trouble she can compartmentalize her feelings between intimacy and friendship. I find this hard to believe.

Her last boyfriend was fairly wealthy. Recently she informed me he wanted to give her $5,000 as a Christmas gift “between friends” and then sponsor her son for overnight camp this summer for $3,000. She turned him down, but said she could have taken the money and I never would have known.

We have major disagreement on money matters. Her attitude is things will take care of themselves and if things happen, we will just start over. She continually pays overdraft fees at her bank and has no idea how to balance a checkbook or work on a budget. She is eager to start a joint bank account and have all our funds commingled. She has $150 to her name and I have considerably more. I am not comfortable with this.

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