Unfortunately there is no magic formula for surviving a dumping. However, to find someone you want to spend your life with, you have to move on and plan a realistic time scale to move forward. Dating tips are just that, as everyone is an individual, and what works for one does not work for another. However there are fairly standard steps you can devise to succeed. There is no reason that you have to spend the rest of your life going out on your own, and eating solitary TV dinners.

1. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY.

You may have been dropped, but it may not be your fault. You may have a holistic approach to your emotional life, but maybe your date did not. Even if you accept that the break up is coming, it still hurts, it is traumatic. Age is not a great help here, it is always difficult to accept rejection.

2. WALLOW AND GRIEVE FOR YOUR LOSS.

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I want to begin our dialog by going through some of the stupid things women do to mess up their life, things which delay finding their soul mate. All of us have been stupid at one time or another. The only difference is how long we want to continue walking down that long corridor of stupidity. Of course, this is only a partial list, but it’ll be enough for you to examine yourself so you can find out if you are doing stupid things to attract stupid men.

Stupid women sleep with their best friend’s boyfriend or somebody else’s husband.

This stupid woman is too dumb to recognize she’s in bed with a stupid man. If the man is cheating on the one he supposedly loves, sooner or later he’s going to cheat on the stupid woman too. The law of attraction holds that all of us, sooner or later, must reap the consequences of our infidelity. A teenager may cheat with her best friend’s boyfriend when she’s sixteen years old only to find, after twenty years of marriage, her life is devastated by the infidelity of her husband. If a woman does not correct this issue in herself, she will always attract a stupid man who will break her heart.

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Sex… There, I’ve said it… There are two major hot buttons for couples that come to see me: sex and money (we’ll get to money in another article).

People will not usually state it up front. It feels far too shameful to approach right off. But eventually I find that the sexual part of their life is ho-hum, less than satisfying, a subtle power game, or a hostile battlefield.

This is far from the lusty, passionate and even sweet experience of movies and advertisements. So, what’s going on in the bedroom?

First, let me assure you that many couples have a sexual life that is very fine. If you’re in that category then great! If not, then read on.

Most of us know that men and women have very different notions about sexuality. The stereotype is that men are just interested in bodies and women just want emotional closeness. And our culture encourages these stereotypes. However, there is also a lot of truth in them.

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False Allegiance

My boyfriend’s mother has treated me unfairly from day one, and he has witnessed her behavior. Surely I couldn’t have done anything to upset her before we even met. When my boyfriend told me after we marry his mother’s issue becomes my problem, I reached my patience’s end and broke it off.

Three months later he came back and said he’s been thinking of nothing but us. He is convinced perhaps he went overboard protecting his mother and neglecting my feelings. However when he told his mother he wants to marry me, she refused to talk about it. When he made a stern effort to break the ice, she cried and told him he has changed.

My perception is, after her husband left for another woman, she lived alone and depended on her son for all the attention in life. She’s jealous and insecure now that I am in the picture. I don’t see her ever maturing or accepting that her son will have his own family and she won’t be his center-point.

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Men, if you don’t already have women chasing after you every day, then you should be dating women online. Here are the Four most compelling reasons why men should be seeking out and meeting women online, and one reason why they absolutely shouldn’t.

1) Online dating is the most amazing gift to men invented since woman herself. (Well, most women.)

Think about it for a moment. For one small flat fee (and sometimes for no fee at all) you can scope out women, learn what they like, what they don’t like, check out their picture and actually begin swapping emails, IMs and talking with them.

Here’s what you don’t have: To get dressed up; to gas up your car; to spend hours of your prime time; to buy drinks for people you don’t’ know; to fail in public.

On balance, it’s a pretty convenient and effective method of meeting women.

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