Be honest. It has happened to all of us. There was this girl… A girl you might have never even talked to… But still… You couldn’t help but think about her all day… And the more you thought about her, the less courage you had to go up to her and invite her for a get-together.

The above situation repeats itself from time to time. Back in high school with the girl who went one class below you, at university with that wonderful woman who always sat in the second row or later with the lady who works at the room next to yours.

And the damn feeling, this one-sided “love” keeps reappearing and making your life a misery. The more you idolize these girls, the further they go from your reality, and being with them one day in the future becomes nothing more than a mere fantasy.

Lesson #1: In a relationship but more importantly, when going out for the first time with somebody, it’s always the person with less emotional involvement who dictates and chooses. This means if you go out with a girl, and you let your happiness depend on how the date goes, you are ruining your chances before you had any. The more you stress yourself about a certain girl, the more emotionally involved you become and as a result, you are almost GUARANTEED to get rejected.

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Skin Deep

I’m a college-age young woman with everything in her life going great, except for the dating aspect. I recently came to the conclusion I am dating what I think are the “right” guys, but they are wrong for me.

My usual type is very attractive, affectionate, intelligent—all the great things girls want in a guy; at least that’s who they are in the beginning. When it comes to actually making a relationship, it usually turns out they don’t want the kind of commitment I do, or we share very different views on cheating.

In fact, I am dating a guy I felt an instant spark with and who I am close to after only a month. Of course, he isn’t ready for any kind of a relationship, though he tells me this could change anytime. I’m glad to say, I’m not holding my breath.

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What is true matching about? It is about people that seem to be made for one another. But this may become a deceiving matter because matching begins with honesty.

1. The first you have to do is being honest with yourself, knowing who you are and what you are about. This issue tightly depends on your selfesteem, so work it out at this instant, always keep in mind a good image of yourself, this is the essence of being ready for your love!

2. Remember that unless you are ready to meet the love of your life, it won’t come for you, because everything depends on how much you want it to happen. Wise men say that when you really want something, the whole Universe rearanges itself for making your wish come true. And believe me there is enough room for everybody’s desires. So let your desire grow stronger every day.

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One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner, cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is left?

Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other less important things will crowd in and take what precious little time you do have. Pick a night that will be “date night” with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.

To get you started, I’ve come up with some suggestions to help you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.

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Perhaps you don’t meet people in the course of your daily life, or you’re not connecting with the right type of person. First of all decide what you have to offer to a future partner, by working out what sort of things interest you. No one is going to like all these options, but they are ways of widening your circle of friends.

1. GOLF

Golfing is a male activity, get lessons and join them on the course. Men network on the golf course all the time, take it further and progress to flirting. Even if you are not good at sports, the men will most often be encouraging of your efforts.

2 GO TO A SPORTS BAR ON GAME NIGHT Why watch big sporting events at home when you can hang out a sports bar complete with big-screen TV, electronic sports games? This is a particularly good way to meet people if you are sporty yourself, impress the guys with your knowledge. Sport is a participation event and it is a lot more fun watching in a group than alone.

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