Do you want to know how to really frustrate a sexy woman who’s attracted to you, even drive her away? It’s a good idea to know this because most guys do it, not even aware they’re doing it, and then are mystified when she doesn’t want to spend time with them anymore.

Here it is: hold back from doing anything physical with her (touching, holding hands, or kissing) because you aren’t sure if she likes you are not. This drives a sexy woman crazy because most won’t initiate physical contact with a guy (although you’ve gotta love the rare exception), and she has to wait until he finally screws up the courage to do what she’s silently begging him to do all along. For some guys this can take weeks, even months, leaving the woman they’re attracted to frustrated, even pissed off.

A lot of men are afraid to initiate contact because they “aren’t sure” if she likes them or not. In turn, the sexy woman begins to wonder if he’s really attracted to her because he won’t initiate contact. What you wind up with is two people who are really attracted to each other, but frustrated because each “isn’t sure.”

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I have bad news for you–if it hasn’t already happened, some day a woman is going to break your heart. Yep, if you’re alive, you’re male, and you like women, some day one is going to break your heart. Although it can be mitigated, it can’t ever be completely avoided, and how you respond to it will determine your success with dating women.

What I’m going to do today is tell you how to get back into the dating game–many guys screw this up, either jumping right back in and getting into the good ol’ rebound relationship, or waste their lives mooning over the one that got away.

The first thing to realize is, no matter how much you use my dating strategies, if your relationship with a woman ends in a way you don’t want it to (and this may range from her dumping you to her dying in a car accident), you’re going to feel some pain, maybe some anger. You can’t avoid that, so just accept it.

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Communication between partners often gets confusing, and there is a very good reason for this. Most of the time, the words we use have far less impact than the energy behind the words. Therefore, what you say is often not what the other person hears.

The energy behind a communication is determined by our INTENTION. In much of the communication between partners, there are two different intentions that can motivate any given communication: we are often either intent upon controlling the other person, or intent upon learning about ourselves and our partner. The difference in energy between these two intentions is what frequently creates the confusion in communication.

For example, in one of my phone counseling sessions with Joshua, he complained about the fact that his wife, Joan, often gets upset with him over seemingly minor issues. A recent conflict had occurred over a book she was reading. He had asked her why she was reading that particular book, and she had responded to him with irritation.

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“All we need is love.” Myth or not? Since love does seem to be able to overcome anything and everything, at least on television and at the movies, this seems like a reality. However, truth is, making relationships work takes skill and hard work, regardless of the “love” factor. This is a myth here.

Let’s take a peak at some of the more common concepts above “love” relationships and see if they are myths or based upon reality.

If you are thinking of going into a relationship, or if you find yourself falling in love, and ready to date, keep this in mind: relationship is way, way beyond just love and attraction.

Just like in fairy tales, once true love is found, people live happily ever after. Truth or myth? Granted couples can look into each other’s eyes and have those warm fuzzy feelings. However, truth is, all couples will have their ups and downs. “Happily ever after” seems to imply a perfect, problem-less relationship when in reality, those don’t exist.

If you are in a problem-less relationship (which doesn’t exist anyway), you’ll get bored one day. And one of the couples will want to run away!

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Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.

Below, I’ve listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren’t magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.

Step 1. Fake it until you make it!

This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!

Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.

Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.

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