Online Dating Etiquette

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You can dress how you want, and have your hair how you want but you must have online dating etiquette the moment your fingers touch the keyboard. This is the point where the single on the other end will feel part of the reel you. This is where everything you type will be scrutinized as everything naturally is at an online dating service.

So first and foremost you have to be honest from the moment you create your profile. Any little white lies or completely made up stories will get found out eventually. At that point your creditability will go along with your current online date. Singles chat to each other in chat rooms, on message boards and give information in blogs. You don’t want to end up as one of their topics. Honesty is attractive no matter how you look at your keyboard.

When you first contact someone, say hello with an e-mail. Lots of online dating services have smiles or flirts but you can’t beat a personal message. You can mention parts of their profile that have caught your attention, and it shows them that you have actually read their profile.

Everyone is inquisitive when they start conversing with someone online but that doesn’t mean you should continually ask questions. Don’t give other singles a reason to be put off. You need to just let the questions flow with the conversation. Weave them in naturally. If they bring something up that can lead into a question then ask it. Also give some information about yourself as well then other singles will be more willing to let their guard down a bit.

Become a good listener. Most people like talking about themselves, and this can lead into you asking a few questions that they will be willing to answer. Plus this shows that you’re paying attention, and that can only be in your favor.

Never ask questions or make statements that will put your date on the defensive. Subjects like politics and religion should be left alone for quite a while. Leave these topics of conversation till you know someone very well or even wait until you have met them offline.

Leave all capital letters and abbreviated sentences out of the conversation. When you use capitals it’s a form of shouting online, and abbreviated sentences become hard to decipher and annoying. You will probably get a way with the odd smiley so they know when you’re joking but don’t over do it. Remember this is someone you are trying to impress, and maybe one day have a lasting relationship with. Presentation is everything especially when attracting a partner.

Do not come across as eager or desperate. Never push someone into doing anything they don’t want to do. You have to respect anyone’s wishes on the speed in which they want to get to know you. If you find you’re in need of changing the way anyone thinks or acts it’s probably not going to work anyway.

About The Author
Jason King is the web master and dating adviser at