There’s nothing worse than being in a slump.

Or so they say.

I’ve been there, chances are you’ve been there, and I have a good friend who’s there right now. It’s affected just about every guy, and is the ultimate discouragement in our pursuit of women…if you let it be. For all its negative undertones, being in a slump doesn’t have to be the worst thing ever. There are actually benefits to taking a timeout from girls, and the sooner you see these benefits, the sooner you’ll actually get out of your drought and into the female zone you’re seeking.

The first step out of a slump is to BELIEVE that you’ll get out of the slump. May be harder than it sounds, but believe me, it’s crucial to adopt that mindset. The guys who are quickest to get out of a drought are those who don’t throw a pity party for themselves, who don’t flee back to their ex’s in desperation, and who remain focused on the other parts of their life, the parts that will attract women to them in the first place: work, sports, friends, etc.
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There are hundreds of articles and websites devoted to making sure that your partner knows that you love them. However, many of these articles are filled with trite expressions of love that seem clichéd when they’re overused. To really show your partner that you care, you need better guidelines and better advice. Here is some advice that you can actually use.

Make coffee/tea in the morning

When you’re both waking up in the morning, one of the first things on your minds is probably some sort of drink to get you going. One of the best ways to help get your days off to a great start is to make coffee for your girlfriend or wife. Without having to go to the lengths that breakfast in bed goes to, you will show that the first thing in the morning that you think of is her.

Do a little cleaning

After making coffee in the morning, why not straighten up a little before you head to the shower or to wherever you need to go? You don’t have to get out a scrub brush, but taking the time to throw the dishes in the dishwasher and scoop the litter pan can be helpful.

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Maybe you’ve been dating for a while and you just need to spice things up a bit. Every relationship needs a boost every now and then, but not everyone knows just how to do this so that both partners are happy again. Some relationships die because the partners believe that there is no way to revitalize their relationship – but that’s incorrect thinking. There are plenty of ways to put the spark back into your relationship.

#1 Try something different

It’s seems a little simple, but trying something different in your relationship is the best way to overcome a ‘boring’ time and start anew. Try a new activity or go on a vacation together. Talk with each other and find out what you’ve always wanted to do – and then do it. Take a class together or try a new restaurant. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

#2 Take time away

Go off and try your own activities for a weekend or a week. When you take the time to re-find yourself in the relationship, you can bring a new vigor and life to the staleness. Too often couples want to share everything with each other, but this doesn’t always increase the fun in a relationship. You get into ruts and habits and you forget that you both have your own interests. And when you’re off exploring your own ‘things,’ you’ve got more to talk about and to share.

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While no one wants their marriage to fail, did you know that there are actually quantifiable reasons for staying with your spouse? In case you need help deciding whether to stay married or not, here are the facts:

#1 Married people are happier

In recent studies, scientists founds that married couples suffer from less depression than their unmarried counterparts. And this even takes into consideration those couples that are living together and not married. Being in a committed relationship with each other is not enough, but showing that commitment to friends, family, and the wedding DJ seems to make the bond all the more important.

#2 Married couples are more productive

While the case could be made that two people can always get more done than one, married couples seem to enjoy exploring their interests more than singles and unmarried couples. Maybe it’s because you’ve set up long term goals and thinking that guides you through the day to day, or maybe it could be because you’re both challenging each other to be better – in either case, married couples just seem to get more done.

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I have never put my feelings in words before. I’ve kept my deepest thoughts inside for most of my childhood and adult life. I’ve had counseling on more than one occasion, but would like your candid and direct opinion. I doubt it will be revealing, but I’m desperate. Please understand what I am about to express is a much deeper issue with me than the actual incident.

I sent several inappropriate e-mails to a former coworker of my wife. In them I described that it has taken me several years to build the courage to write to her, although I wanted to say these things in person. I tried to mask my courting as “passionate,” but the ugly truth is I only wanted to make love to her.

I was rejected and was assured that my insulting behavior would be kept to herself. Much to her credit, she has kept her word. Although I expressed how sorry I am for hurting her, I don’t feel I’ve done enough to show my sincere sorrow. I can’t stop the fear of exposure and how badly it will affect my wife at work.

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