We do not require the services of a psychologist to let us know that the best relationships are those that are based on good communication. Yet, we hardly ever try to change our ways. We continue on along our paths, eager that somehow everything will fall into place. Sometimes, it does – thanks to the hard work of our partners. But typically it does not. We allow the fault lines to grow deeper and arrive at a stage where they can no longer be bridged.

The first necessity to have good communication in a relationship is to respect each other. Men, who consider their wives inferior will seldom, if ever, strike a good relationship. The same is true for women. They can never hope to gain their confidence and affection if they look down upon their husbands.

Good communication also requires good listening skills. A husband and a wife must discover how to listen to each other. They must focus on to what their spouse is saying, and respond. Very often, couples grow apart because the husband and wife don’t pay attention to what each other are saying. This can be very frustrating – for one or for both.

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Most women tell a similar story. “I love my man and I know he loves me. Our sex life is O.K., but most of the time he doesn’t really know how to pleasure me. Our sex is mostly for his pleasure. Sometimes I fake an orgasm, just to get it over with and not hurt his feelings.”

What if you could have a better lover without changing your relationship?

What if your current, less-then-excellent-lover learned to listen to your body and paid attention to those things which make sex great for you? What if you as a couple could learn ways to re-invigorate your intimate times together—even in the midst of much-too-busy schedules and/or the demands of children in the home?

Yes, these “what ifs” could become “the way it is” with less time and energy that you might imagine. The information and skills needed are now available. This new intimacy education goes beyond basic sex education to teach the intimacy skills and relationship-enhancing techniques for great sex rarely taught in our society.

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Have you ever been to a function in a room full of strangers and found yourself lost for words?

The art of introducing yourself to others and creating small talk may come natural for some, but most people confess to feeling shy, embarrassed and don’t know where to start.

There are four levels of communication: Small talk, fact disclosure, share viewpoints and opinions and share personal opinions.

Small Talk

In new relationships or acquaintances the safest place to start is to talk about surface issues. For instance, make a comment about the weather, current events or the surroundings you are in.

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With over 40 million people having ventured into the online dating arena, it would be a gross understatement to say that Internet dating is big business. I am sure you are aware that you must protect your privacy on the Internet - you know better than to provide personal information and to trust any Tom, Dick or Harry that comes along. But did you know that online dating also has unwritten rules and that adhering to these rules is crucial to your online dating success?

Lower Your Expectations

Unfortunately, over 95% of those who enter the online dating scene do not actually find their match. These are the people who throw in the towel after a couple of disappointing dates. It is important that you persevere. Online dating is a process. Finding the right person will likely take time and persistence. This means you will need to have a lot of patience to search, screen, email, chat and date before you succeed. Therefore, it is important that you keep your expectations low. After all, would you not rather be pleasantly surprised than deeply disappointed?

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Good question. But the answer is no! Absolutely not, unless you’re looking for trouble in your relationship. Because there’s bound to be problems later on down the line for you and the person who you’re thinking about dating who is married. You’re probably wondering, why not take the chance and go for it! You’re a person that likes challenges. Well a challenge you’ll get and then some. So why bother taking the risk if there is a possibility that you may have problems later on down the line. You say, what future problems could there be? Well you may run into some or all of these problems:

1) The spouse of the married person you’re dating catches you out on a date when you least expect it! This could be very embarrassing for the both of you. How’d you like the spouse of the person you’re currently dating, to have an angry confrontation in front of the both of you in a public place that you may be at the time. The angry spouse may not only be verbally confrontational, but, may get physical with you as well! This would not be good for either of you nor the person’s spouse.

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