Any woman can attract a better quality man or inspire the man she has to give her more love, affection and romance, by learning the truth about Overnurturing.

What is Overnurturing? It’s doing too much in a relationship. Giving too much. It’s the reverse of how a relationship works best for a woman.Giving is what men are supposed to do. Women are supposed to receive the love, affection and gifts that men give, and then give love and affection back to them. Though many of us have caught onto this, it’s challenging to stop doing what we’ve always done, what we’ve been told is the way to do things, and to fly in the face of the fallout we fear. So I’m going to tackle one little issue – Nurturing.

Nurturing is masculine. If you want to get what he wants to give, stop nurturing your man.

Radical as this sounds, try it. Stop doing. Stop giving. Stop massaging your husband’s feelings. Stop helping your date do the relationship thing and let him flounder until he figures it out. He will.

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She was beautiful. She was popular. I wanted to walk up to her and say something clever so she would know that I liked her. I was different than all the jerks she went out with. So I walked up to Tina and told her that I liked her and that we should go out. She smiled and said “Why thank you. You would make any girl happy but you and I can only be friends.”

Back then I just didn’t get it. That was many years ago and today I can talk to any woman, anytime, and anywhere. I can also get a date whenever I want. I see men make the same mistakes over and over again. So here are 7 Common Dating Mistakes Men Make that get in the way of having better results with beautiful women.

Mistake #1) Acting Needy: One of the biggest secrets of attraction and seduction is a man who appears like he does NOT need a woman. Men buy women drinks in bars. They buy them gifts, vacations, and even cars. Yes, I’ve seen this my own two eyes.

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Single women in midlife are often interested in getting back in the dating game, but they don’t know how to go about it. After years or even decades of marriages that ended in divorce or the death of a spouse, how do women in their 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s meet men these days?

An increasingly popular—and successful—way is through Internet dating. Judsen Culbreth, author of The Boomers‚ Guide to Online Dating (Rodale, 2005), answers FAQs about finding love online:

Why is online dating a good choice for single women in midlife?

First, mature daters are the big growth industry, and men are more likely to be online than women. Men like technology, and they feel that online dating is a logical choice. It’s a great way to screen candidates. Everyone is a prequalified prospect; they’ve said, I want to date. Where else can you go to get applications for a relationship? People disclose things they would never say in a bar. It’s more of a sure shot. And it’s a less stressful way to meet people. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to go there.

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Like gardens, in order to bloom and produce, relationships require upkeep. Basic garden requirements are soil and water. Basic relationship requirements are time and attention. Many couples know these basic requirements and exercise them, yet find that their relationship is not what they wanted it to be. They talk, but nothing ever seems to change. They go through the empty motions of loving each other, but something is missing. The phrase “I love you, but I am not in love with you!” may have been thought or expressed. They wonder, “What am I missing?” or “What am I doing wrong?”. If this situation describes your relationship, read on to find the answer.

The missing attribute is courage. Although one assumes they know what ‘courage’ means, taking a closer look at this attribute yields life changing qualities. Courage is required in its many forms. The word itself is from a Latin root, cor referring to the heart. Courage also entails firmness, intrepidity, being without fear or depression of spirit, and being resolute.

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Modern society often uses game-based phrases, like “take it to the next level”. Taking a relationship ‘to the next level’ of intimacy requires effort and skill. Some people’s relationships are not fulfilling because they either lack the skills, the knowledge or are unwilling to exert the effort of improving intimacy required by relationships. Many people suffer in silent desperation or seek affairs rather than address what is needed to improve the intimacy. When someone is desperate, they often confuse the intensity that affairs provide with the intimacy which they need. They make wrong choices because they do not understand what is needed in the relationship.

Based on his experience and observations, the psychoanalyst, Eric Fromm claimed the relationship skill list includes the qualities of humility, courage, faith and discipline. This list provides general qualities required. My experience is that people want to know how to apply such qualities. For example, they wish to know how to express humility (or some other necessary quality) in relationships.

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