Upon discovery of infidelity there is often a strong need to know the details. What happened? When? Where? Why? etc. The reasons for these questions are examined in my first article on this subject: “Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is so Strong.”

You have the need to know, but his/her lips are sealed or walks away, ignores or bypasses your questions, puts it back on you, denies or does other numbers on you to keep you away from knowing what really happened. There are predictable reasons why this happens. Here’s some of them:

1. Your partner/spouse is involved in an “I don’t want to say no” affair. Your partner probably is a person wrapped up in his own ego, personal needs, and life style. He can rationalize the behavior and actually come to the conclusion that he is entitled to get his needs met this way. After all, he is such a magnanimous person! Bottom line: your needs and concerns really don’t matter! He doesn’t want to talk about them and sees absolutely no reason to get “bogged down” in what is important to you.

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When we are angry at our spouse, occasionally we put our foot in our mouths one too many times. We stumble around, attempting to find the best words to discuss a problem we’re having in our relationship.

Discussing certain subjects like money, sex or child rearing can be difficult, especially if the relationship is already problematic.

Effective communication for couples is an art in itself. It is an important part of any successful relationship; yet oftentimes overlooked the most by couples.

Busy schedules and the demands of family, work and daily household responsibilities take a toll on a relationship, leaving little time for relaxation and just having fun together.

So what happens when we get burned out? Well, we usually take our anger out on the people we love the most.

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Do you think that relationships automatically develop into mature partnerships? They do, if both partners are willing to work at it. And yes, there is work involved.

However, there are several reasons why relationships don’t work well. We will put in here just five of those biggest reasons.

1. FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE MORE – in any relationship, communication is essential. One needs to let the other person know what is in his or her mind. We cannot keep on second-guessing the other person. Open communication even becomes critical so as not to misunderstand each other. Problems arise when one partner expects the other to read his or her mind and you will agree with me that this is close to impossible.

My wife for example is an introvert. In our 1st years of marriage whenever she gets angry she just keeps quiet all the time and I get frustrated because it was like I was talking to a wall. But later she too realized that it was necessary for her to communicate and express herself in order to reconcile and put the unity back between us. We must also seek to be a listener and have an attitude like this:” I want to understand her so that I can know why she thinks and feels that way.”

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Shyness can be a huge problem for some people especially when it comes to dating and social interaction. Sometimes being shy can be a big plus when it comes to relationships. Some people find shyness cute and are attracted to shy people. The cuteness soon wears off, if for example, you are incapable of doing anything on your own. Simple things like going into a crowded hotel, or arranging tickets to the theatre. This is when you become needy and needy people get to be a pain in the neck. So what can you do about it, before you be come needy that is?.

Throughout your life you have to grow. We have to grow as people and learn new things to progress. If you keep your me active you will be a much more interesting person with a sparkling personality.

Now if you’re too shy and it stops you from doing things then you must to something about it. To do this will require some effort on your part but then most worthwhile things do. The good thing is you can start right now, there are plenty of opportunities in everyday life to get rid of that being shy habit for good.

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Women, no matter what type, have a tendency to unintentionally push a man’s buttons in the beginning of a relationship. This usually leads to the “Where did I go wrong?”, and by this time, he’s most likely to avoid any questions you insist on asking him about it. There are ways to avoid this, and there are ways to get your questions answered without having him realize he’s opening up. Which is a subject in itself. I am going to keep this as short, and sweet as possible.

These are 10 mistakes women tend to make with their beaus in the beginning, or start of a relationship, that usually get the break-up ball rolling. These are in no particular order, as they can vary in damage from each man. Just try to make a little note of them, and if you catch yourself in the process of making one, step back and ask yourself if you might regret your actions later on.

1. Ladies, men generally know it is their “responsibility” to make the phone calls. Unless they are extremely insecure, in which case why would you bother anyway, they will call you if they want to talk to you. They will also return your calls to them, if they want to talk to you. Trust in this, if he is into you, he WILL call. If he doesn’t, then be over it. You will only annoy him, and there is no turning back from being annoying. This has never failed, and it never will. I know it’s hard to fight the urge, but this is worth it in the end.

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