Are You Open To Love?

Can we get something when we do not know what we want?

“Are You Open To Love?” I ask. You say..”Of course! What kind of question is that?, who isn’t?”. Isn’t it amazing that we think that and yet, there are millions of people who say they want love yet when it comes to the crunch they are not really open to it.

Imagine..you want to buy something. You go to the shop. You see the items you want in the shop. But then just before you pick the item and about to pay for it, your mind tells you…”no I dont want this” and you go put it back on the shelf. How many times have you done that?

What do I mean by that? Well, everyone needs love. We all feel lonely now and then. So we think we need love and go around our daily chores thinking we will bump into the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Occasionally we meet people we think we like and get along. We think “wow, he or she seems to be exactly the one I am looking for” etc.

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Is there any such thing as a soul mate? Yes, there are soul mates for everyone in the world. You will find that you may find your soul mate in the least likely place or in the least likely person, but you will find someone who can love you and care for you when you need them. A soul mate is a person who you love and loves you back for no reason at all. A soul mate is deeper than lust.

You don’t lust for the person, though you may every now and then, but you are just as happy sitting with them watching TV as you are in the bedroom. You will find that your soul mate is like no other boyfriend. When you find a soul mate, you will feel something that you have never felt before.

Is there more than one soul mate out there? When it comes to answering your feelings, you will find that most people are 50/50 on this one. You may find that you love more than one man deeply in your life. There are more than a billion people in the world and your chances of having more than one soul mate is possible, however, most people believe in the one and only.

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Have you noticed that your husband or boyfriend is paying less and less time with you and more time with work or his hobbies? It’s perfectly fine to feel a little insecure when he starts focusing on other things, but that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. Usually, when a guy starts switching his attention away from the relationship to things like work or hobbies it is because he feels secure in his relationship. Most guys have the “if it’s not broken, then don’t fix it” attitude.

Right now, he just feels that there is no issue that the relationship needs all of his attention. What you want to do is have a talk about ways that you can spend more time together or you can simply seek more of his attention out with subtle hints. The only thing is that you don’t want to sound demanding or clingy.

When it comes to talking to your man, you will want to avoid sounding demanding. If you push him and there is nothing wrong, to him, in the relationship, he will start to get defensive. Don’t sound like you don’t trust him, or that you don’t appreciate him. If it is work that is getting in the way of you two men take their jobs very seriously. In fact, a job, to a man, defines who he is.

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At birth, did you get a manual as to ‘how’ to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and keep friends and how to find that ‘special’ person, suitable for you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are so good at dating and others aren’t? What are they doing different? Is it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well? And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How often do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too busy to function in this world instead of taking the time to find out how we function and how we could function more effectively! The following tips are just a few taken from my book ‘The Art of Dating’.

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I am 19 and have three beautiful children. I just got married one month ago to their father. We have been together since we were 14. I love him ever so dearly, but he is an alcoholic. I don’t know what to do. I know in my mind it will never work out because of his addiction.

He is starting to get bad with the verbal abuse, and he is starting to get mean with the children for no reason at all. My son is only three, and my twin daughters only a year and a half. My family despises him, but they are unwilling to help because they would feel obligated to help support me and my three children.

I understand it is not good for my children to be in this environment, and I understand it will only get worse from here. One of my biggest fears is raising my children alone. I just need help figuring out how to get my mind and my heart in one place.

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