Maybe yes, maybe no, this depends on the relationship you have with your friend. Will asking your friend out make them uncomfortable? Or, is it that you both feel the same way but don’t know how to approach each other about this subject.

You say, you don’t want to ruin the relationship you have with your friend, if you ask them out for a date and they say no. You couldn’t deal with the rejection and embarrassment that you may feel later on.

Sandra has known Tom for three years and they are close friends. Tom has had a crush on Sandra for the last two years but does not know how to let Sandra know how he feels. Ironically, Sandra has wanted to date Tom since they met while attending college classes three years ago. She has been wanting Tom to ask her out on a formal date, but he hasn’t. She even thought about asking him out, but she was unsure if this would create problems for their friendship. Neither one of them know what they should do, so they haven’t done anything about how they feel.

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Arguments happen. Not everyone is going to agree with everyone all of the time, nor should they expect to. But when you’re in a relationship, the context of arguments can become very emotional, to a point when you can hurt the other’s feelings. But there are ways that you can learn how to fight fair so that you both learn from the argument instead of ruin a relationship.

1) Don’t lecture

When you’re in an adult relationship, you should treat each other like adults. When one person begins to lecture the other person about what they did wrong, it sets up a power divide that can create animosity and discord. Instead of trying to be ‘right,’ why not try to talk about what’s going on to see how you can fix it?

2) Don’t sweat the small details

When you’re in an argument, it’s not beneficial to fight about little things that probably won’t matter in a few days. Think about something before you bring it up and if you know that you won’t ever remember the point in six months, you probably don’t even need to mention it. The same rule applies for anything that happened well before the argument – stick to the argument at hand and focus only on those details.

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Everyone’s relationship is filled with ups and downs. In order to keep your relationship happy and healthy, you will want to understand that not only is perfection impossible, it’s also realistic. However, if you feel like your relationship needs some fine tuning, there are plenty of ways to create (or re-create) the relationship that you already have.

Ask for what you want

Sometimes it’s really as simple as asking your partner for the things you feel are missing. We commonly believe that once we’re in a relationship that our partner will know what we need – after all, the relationship is still working. But people can not be mind readers, so it’s your responsibility to ask for the things that will make you happy.

Be honest

In this assessment of your relationship, you owe it to yourself and to your partner to be honest with each other. While lying can seem like the simple cover-up for problems and other issues, it only complicates the matters and can lead to further problems. What you need to do is trust in each other enough to tell when you need something more and tell them truthfully.

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There are times in every relationship when other commitments take priority over your husband or your boyfriend, but these times can hurt a relationship. When you start to notice that you haven’t been as close as you once were, you will want to start taking steps that will reconnect you with your partner and re-establish the strong relationship that you once had.

Realize that the mess can wait

Some women believe that they are being constantly judged by how their house or their living space looks. However, this is far from the case. Instead of making cleaning the majority of your free time, why not allow yourself to let more things go at the end of the day to make room for your relationship? Instead of having the laundry always done and the kitchen always shining, isn’t your relationship worth the time?

Take time for yourself

Many women will feel more connected in their relationships if they take the time to make themselves look good. Something as simple as getting out of sweatpants and tee shirts at the end of the day and into nice jeans and a well-fitting top can help you feel more confident and thus, more attractive to your partner. You don’t have to look like a model, but taking care of your appearance can help you feel like one.

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In part 1, we made the base for which to build your magnetic personal ad, or skeleton so to speak. Now we shall build the body, head to toe.

When writing your personal ad, remember that you are selling yourself. Emphasize on the positive, but a negative well blended into the ad might work as well, even make your ad stand out (“I may not have the body of a supermodel but…”).

But first your photo: hugely important. Why? Because it is the first thing other people will look at before deciding to read farther. Also, the number responses increase dramatically when you post a photo.

The photo should be fairly recent and of yourself (not your cute cousin’s). It should be cast you in positive light, but not overdone. And please do not post a suggestive photo on a serious dating or matchmaking site (it will not be published anyway).

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