Some people have the relationships of their dreams, but most people don’t. Most people are secretly suffering and settling — stuck wishing things were better without much chance of change.

What’s the difference? What keeps people trapped in dead end situations?

There are three main reasons why people don’t have the relationships of their dreams.

Reason #1: Blaming their partner for the problems. “It’s all their fault!”

The first and most obvious reason is blaming their partner for everything. They think, “If my partner would only change, things would be perfect.” This is such an easy trap to fall into, but if you think about it, it’s very dis-empowering.

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My younger brother and his wife called me days before my first child was born. I thought they were calling to see if the baby had arrived or to congratulate us, as I made a huge effort to fly out east when they had their first child. I helped them financially as well. However their call was stressful and rude.

I never expected them to treat me so horribly at the birth of my son! I moved across the country when I was 18 to go to college. My mother, adoptive father and I have been estranged ever since. Our parents were extremely destructive, emotionally and physically abusive. So much so I was diagnosed with PTSD and suffered from depression for many years.

My brother was favored. I have been back east to celebrate his milestones, yet my family treated me like garbage in front of my fiancé, who they were meeting for the first time. In the years I’ve lived out west they have never visited. None of them—including my brother who I took good care of when growing up—made an effort to attend my wedding!

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There are things that women want men to know but do not tell them. This is going to mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. If men could only know about these things that are big no-nos and knew what women wanted, they would be able to have happier relationships with the woman in their life.

1) Giving Respect is as Important as Getting It

One thing is respect. Women want to have respect. When it comes to respecting women, some men are not so good at it. This may end up resulting in them losing out in the relationship. It is important to show respect to a woman that you are involved with or any woman for that matter. Give them an opportunity to see that you can be a good guy and that you can respect what they believe and let them have their own feelings about things.

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So you just went through a rough divorce and are back on the single scene. What do you do?

Being in the single pool once again can be a tough scanario for many divorced men. It’s unfamiliar territory and it’s a little frightening.

In part of 1 this article, I discussed the first 5 steps you must take in order to break through this mindset and start dating, and more importantly ENJOY being single once again.

here are the next 5 steps in the process:

***STEP 6- Have a game plan***

When you actually meet women that you find attractive, what will you do? What will you say and how will you behave? If you are one of the guys who is completely at a loss for words, you may want to invest in yourself by reading a couple of books, attending seminars or workshops.

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What do you do when you just went through a bitter divorce and now you find yourself on the single scene once again??

Where do you start?

How do you meet women again?

Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? Sometimes, it appears that the times have drastically changed since you were last single. How do you begin anew?

In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It’s been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.

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