You’re dating a new guy, and you’re crazy about him. You’re feeling vulnerable, you definitely don’t want to get hurt, so you call a few friends to analyze things he’s said to get their perspective. Is this a good idea?

Not really.

While it’s tempting to give friends an I-said-he-said account of your conversations with a new love, it’s a big mistake. You destroy whatever intimacy that developed. If you want a special relationship, keep it special by keeping it between the two people it involves: Him and you.

(Discount this advice if this man has ever hit you or threatened you in any way. In that case, RUN FOR THE HILLS. Dial 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for help!).

As for a normal new boyfriend, your friends do not know him any better than you do (unless they’re his sisters, in which case you should definitely keep quiet about him).

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Happiness is a precious gift. The pursuit of happiness should direct one to look within oneself and to the love that surrounds us. Happiness means well-being, sound health, and calm mind. Man is a social being and in spite of the nuclear society we live in today, all our relationships make us what we are. And one of the most important of them all is the institution of marriage. Marriage means commitment, love and understanding. More often than not the pursuit happiness ends in marriage.

Marriage is a firm bonding based on love, passion and sexual desire. Each equally important in its own sphere as we know that life should have a complete balance of love and commitment. Marriage is an ultimate commitment of life to peruse the natural way to attain happiness.

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When partners are having problems, they often say that the problem is communication. What exactly does this mean? What are they trying to communicate?

There are various reasons for communicating:

1. Sometimes we communicate to offer information about ourselves, such as, “I’m going out for a walk,” or “The dinner reservations are for 7:00.”

2. Sometimes we communicate to ask for help with tasks, such as, “I need to move the couch to clean under it and I can’t lift it. Would you help me?”

3. Sometimes we communicate to learn something about the other person, such as “Please help me to understand why you are feeling upset with me. I care about you and I really want to understand.”

4. Sometimes we communicate to ask for help regarding ourselves, such as, “I’m feeling very anxious and I don’t know why. Would you talk with me for awhile? Maybe if I talk about it I will understand it.”

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Food and romance:

There is a close bond between food and romance, which is why a candle-lit dinner with a sweetheart is much sought after.

A food related gift is also a good idea.

For the more enterprising ones, a plate engraved with a love message can be used to serve food either at home or you can ask a waiter to do so at a restaurant.

You can wrap a little surprise gift for your partner and keep it in his/her favourite food box.

Surprise your sweetheart with a delicious meal delivered from a restaurant right to her door.

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It’s the same story with the same fairy tale ending. Boy meets girl. Love. Kisses. Miss made Mrs. And everyone assumes that they’ll live happily ever after. But do they? If you don’t want your marriage to go wrong you should understand that contrary to popular belief, nothing goes right in marriage unless you are mentally prepared for life together. Pointers to help you.

Don’t waver between, “Should I?” or “Should I not?”

Entering into anything half-heartedly can end in disaster. If marriage is not what you want, do not be forced or cajoled into it. Being single has its own charm - the freedom it gives one is a wonderful lure. If marriage is something you do want, be sure that you feel drawn to your partner-to-be. Do not be pressurised into accepting someone you don’t have a liking for.

Avoid acting in a manner which says, “I’m easily available”.

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