So you’ve just gone through a devastating break-up. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing quite as painful as being dumped by someone you thought was the One. I know you’re probably feeling like your heart has been ripped out and stomped on and that your hopes and dreams have been shattered. Do what you have to do (within reason, of course) to grieve this loss—cry, get angry, punch your pillow, throw darts at your ex’s picture.

One thing you should not do, however, is visit, phone, email, or text you ex. You should have no contact whatsoever. Accept the fact that it is over and make a clean break. Keep your dignity intact. Trust me on this—in the long run you’ll be glad you did.

Thoughts of revenge may be going though your head, but please, don’t act on them. Don’t spread rumours, don’t betray old secrets, and don’t date or make out with his/her best friend to get even. Never resort to behaviour that you will regret in the future. Always act with class and remember that the best revenge is for your ex to see that you are doing just fine without him/her. You’ve moved on and are happy.

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I need help with a big problem I am facing. My dad says I’m not his, and my mom says I am his. But a couple of my dad’s friends also witnessed she was sleeping around on him in 1987, and well, I don’t know what to do to prove my mom or dad either way.

I know there is DNA, but dad, me, and my mom can’t come up with the money. I am wondering what I should do, and how can I calm down about this situation?

Jeff

Jeff, there is a solution, but your parents haven’t made an effort to find it. Why? Because the answer doesn’t really matter. If you are your father’s biological child, your mother will feel vindicated and your father will be mad. He doesn’t want to be proven wrong, and if he is, he won’t change his opinion of your mother. If he is right, your mother won’t want to admit what happened.

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